Do you know that many of us are living our lives in the shadow of other people’s opinion of us? These other people may be our relatives, friends, past or present bosses, our friends or even our religious leaders. Situations may have occurred leading to such perceptions about us. It could be positive or negative perceptions but the fact remains that we may be living our lives in the shadow of other people’s perceptions.
We are all unique human beings created by God for his pleasure and purpose. We are created with different capabilities, race, gender, physiological make ups and talents. As we grew up in societies that has its expectations and in our bid to fit in or succeed, we become vulnerable to certain opinions especially from those who we respect, have authority over us or based on the rules that govern our environment. To a large extent, these opinions have influenced our choices and then determines how we rate our self-worth or value which has a direct link to our self-esteem.
”Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” – Albert Einstein
So imagine growing up in an environment where you were considered a misfit or a person lacking expected capabilities and constantly receiving criticisms and ridicules? Imagine working in an office where your boss is always critical of your work outputs, your performance is constantly rated below par? Imagine being with relatives who are constantly ridiculing your height, your complexion, your speech pattern or your mode of dressing? There is a high probability that you may come out with a low self-worth/value.
In another scenario, imagine yourself growing in an environment where you are loved and appreciated? You are considered as an excellent performer. No one dwells on your limitations but rather your potentials are highlighted and you are always encouraged to stretch and exceed set goals. You have a loving family who have your back and are willing to go overboard in their bid to support you. You belong to a social group that are supportive and whose activities add to your social and mental wellbeing. There is a high probability your self-worth/value will be high.
Nevertheless, in as much as our environment played a huge role in how we perceive our self-value, it is important that we begin to focus inward and remember that we all were created in the image of our God. He has given us our being and distinctions based on his wisdom. No other person has a right to determine your worth. You also have the right to determine whose report you will believe. As Christians, the Bible has told us in Romans 8: 1 that there is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, meaning that if our creator does not condemn us then why are we allowing the opinion of others determine how we see ourselves? We have unique strengths and values and if our creator says so, you can certainly believe him!
I ask that we intentionally seek to acknowledge our self-worth and not heed to the opinion of people who are limited in their knowledge of you and God. You have the prerogative to improve or change whatever you consider as a limitation or lack in your life. A great sense of self-worth goes a long way to create a healthy dose of mental and emotional wellbeing. You are worthy and you matter.
I see you!
