We all have expectations. I think basically , all we do in this life is based on expectations.
It could be expectations from or of people, health, social, economic etc. The expectations could also be that of other people’s expectations of us or our personal expectations, how ever, it goes, we thrive on expectations and most importantly, we are most comfortable when they are met!
I know the feeling of disappointment when expectations are not met. These disappointments can bring up emotions like feeling of anger, feeling of inadequacy, feeling of shame, fear etc. what is your reaction when you have unmet expectations and you are experiencing any of the highlighted feelings? I know that many people have committed suicide, murdered, cursed, blamed other people, lost confidence in oneself or in others etc.
Also, I know people who are very resilient and optimistic, even with the disappointments, they look for the positives in the situation, coupled with their unflinching faith in God, they continue to search for learning, alternatives and innovative ways to achieve their expectations.
I am learning that in all situations, as long as one is alive, there is always a way out. It might not be as planned but our having a positive mindset is a good way of managing our emotions thus we can react in a way that would be beneficial to us in a positive way.
Some people have a way of pointing fingers at others when they are disappointed, I have come to learn that pointing fingers does not solve the issue, rather, I look at the outcomes, analyze my actions and consciously look at alternative actions for positive outcomes.
Some people have a way of pointing fingers at others when they are disappointed, I have come to learn that pointing fingers does not solve the issue, rather, I look at the outcomes, analyze my actions and consciously look at alternative actions for positive outcomes.
I have also learned to understand that my emotions are natural as I am human. How I deal with these emotions are also important as emotions have a way of blinding one from looking at an issue critically with a view of resolving issues amicably and efficiently. I am learning to acknowledge the emotions as they come but I try to ensure that I do not immediately act or take lasting decisions amid the emotions,
I have always admired people who continue to thrive, strive and most especially control their emotions even amid disappointments and successes. This is something I pray and believe that will be my spirit at all times.
